If you’ve been ghosted by someone you really liked, we’re sorry for you. And no, it doesn’t get any easier. First off, we’d like to say that it isn’t your fault that you were ghosted unless you did something or referenced something inappropriate. Mostly, girls ghost guys because they don’t hit it off with them or aren’t interested in them anymore. And although it’s understandable, it still isn’t justifiable. It’s rude and unnecessary to leave someone hanging just because you don’t feel like explaining your side.
But that isn’t the only reason girls ghost guys, and ghosting isn’t the end of anything unless you both want it to be. Almost every new connection is salvageable as long as you know exactly what to say.
Don’t worry; we won’t hang you out to dry. Read on until the end of this blog to learn all that can possibly be learned about why girls don’t respond to messages and what you should do about it!
What to Say to Girl When She Doesn’t Respond?
If this is the first time a girl hasn’t responded to you, we understand that you’re entirely out of depth here.
The first thing to remember is that being left on read is a completely reversible state and is just a minor inconvenience in the grand scheme of things. If all goes well, the two of you might even laugh about it in a week or two.
Here’s how you should proceed in a similar situation.
Firstly, try to look at the bigger picture. Think about her point of view and how she might be taking your approach. Could you have come across as needy or unemotional, rude or immature? This is called determining the ‘why.’
Second, think about your standing in the situation. Does it really matter to you if you’ve been ghosted?
This depends entirely on the answer to the first question.
It shouldn’t matter to you if you feel like you’ve done nothing wrong. However, if you’ve indeed slipped up or made a mistake, it’s best to apologize for it.
One of the default responses to ghosting is to follow up with one more text. This lets them know you’re still interested, but not for long.
If you’re feeling confused right now, don’t worry. We’re going to explain everything to you in the step-by-step, so when you’re done with this blog, you’re feeling your most confident.
Step 1: Determine the ‘why’
How can you determine the reason behind what someone did? You can’t, but you can make some educated guesses, and here are a few of those:
She didn’t get a chance to respond
This is the first and extremely plausible possibility. There are thousands of reasons why someone couldn’t reply to a text on their phone.
Maybe she had a family emergency or broke her phone. Maybe she’s been slammed at work and didn’t have much time left for anything. She could’ve meant to text you back, or she’s just one of those who suck at remembering to text people back.
Or it could be something entirely different. So, it’s best to press on hold unless you know exactly what the reason behind her delayed/lack of response is.
She isn’t interested in you
This is another plausible possibility. She doesn’t really like you and is trying to avoid you. It’s not uncommon and has absolutely nothing to do with you: some people are just non-confrontational by nature.
She’s trying to play a game
Some girls think that playing hard-to-get gives them more value, and the other person wants them more. And although it doesn’t make any sense practically, it does seem to work in a few cases.
However, it absolutely shouldn’t work for you. To her, you’re just another person with a vial of attention, which will be gone when you hand it over.
Step 2: Here’s what you can say
Now that we’ve discussed the reason behind their delayed response, let’s see how you can proceed.
The very first point to keep in mind is it’s always best to text once more. She could’ve missed your first text or just felt that there wasn’t anything worth replying to in your text.
Even if you think they’re not interested, it’s best to go back and make sure. Now, there are a couple of ways to check up on someone, especially if you’ve sent the last message.
The first way to go about being ignored is to just be funny and understanding about it. It’s okay if they forgot to text back; we’re all adults and have a million things going on in our lives.
Here are a few funny responses. Tailor them according to your needs.
“How will we plan our date if you don’t text back?”
“We aren’t even together yet and you’re already ignoring me? That won’t work, will it?”
“Jeez, woman! My grandma replies faster than you, and she’s 84 and only has one eye.”
“Man, you really know how to keep them waiting.”
“I bet there’s a long, articulate response headed towards me.”
Note: Although these responses are funny, they aren’t best for every situation. Sometimes, when you double-check on the same thing, you’re forcing them to talk about something they evidently don’t want to.
If you suspect that they aren’t interested or trying to play you, you absolutely don’t need to tolerate that level of insult.
You’re both adults and don’t have time to keep waiting for someone’s texts like a 12-year-old. Say this to them in a polite, firm, self-respecting way.
Here’s a response that might help you formulate one on your own:
“Hey, [name]. Hope all’s good with you. I reached out to you a few times, but I can’t keep chasing, I’m not very good at it. If you aren’t completely against a coffee date, hit me up.”
Responses like these are a major power move because it changes your image from available to a guy with a spine and no time for prospects that aren’t going anywhere.
The ball’s in their court this time and they have the chance to decide on their own. If they’re still not replying or giving a clear-enough answer, call it good riddance and move on.
Bonus: Pick something fun to do together
If it turns out that they were just slammed with work and are still very interested in you, you could move forward and plan a fun activity together!
It reduces the risk of such freezer-out phases as you’ll be doing something you love.