We’ve all been ignored at least once in our lifetimes. It might be intentional or unintentional, but it has certainly happened. It’s not the best feeling to be ignored, but it’s not the end of the world. Remember that you’ll still wake up the next day and live your life like any other day.
You won’t even remember this incident five years later, just like you don’t remember anything similar from five years ago! Knowing this will help you not get too invested in this- for the lack of a better word- drama.
However, it’s not okay to just let a person walk all over you, so we’re certainly not going to ask you to do that. There are many reasons why someone might ignore you, but you don’t need to understand their reasons; after all, your self-respect is not expendable under any circumstances.
Read on till the end of this blog to learn all there is to know about how you can respond when someone ignores you.
What to Do When Someone Ignores You
Step 1: Figure Out the “Why”
We know you’re probably really upset, but the best way to tackle such a situation is to look at the bigger picture. Think about what’s happening in their life (if you’re close enough to know that) or what might’ve made them do it.
Try to understand the situation and their reaction to it. Did they ignore your text? Did you approach them in public and they ignored you, or did they try to avoid you?
If this approach doesn’t work, think about what they stand to achieve by ignoring you. Do they talk to someone else? Could they know that you’ll get upset and did it intentionally?
It could’ve been a genuine mistake from their side as well; you can’t tell what’s going on in someone else’s mind. Maybe they got nervous or didn’t know how to react. These situations are quite common when dealing with a shy or introverted person.
Before taking action, be sure to have explored the situation from all sides.
It’s always a possibility that they might not have seen or noticed you, so don’t act too mad or upset. It would make you seem like a rash person or an overthinker and overreactor. We don’t want either of those things.
Step 2: Select the Perfect Response to Being Ignored
Your response will be mostly based on your relationship with that person. How close are you? How far are you willing to go to understand their point of view? How much self-respect can you give up if they prove to be stubborn?
And lastly, how important is their presence in your life? Do you want them around you or need them around you?
If you can answer all these questions immediately, you’re halfway done. Here are the two options you can choose from:
Try to communicate with them.
If they’re your girlfriend/boyfriend, giving them at least one chance to explain themselves is more than fair. You can ask them if they were aware of your presence and chose to ignore you.
Remember to be calm throughout the talk. Act like you’re curious about their behavior rather than mad or upset. Losing your cool here will be one of their biggest advantages.